Speed Bumps

I am sure that even seeing the word "speed bump" makes you slam your foot on the ground in reaction to not letting the sudden obstacle in the road jolt you and your vehicle - reminding us to slow down in an area we need to be aware. Children, pedestrians, maybe even construction or a road hazard.

Our lives may even be on cruise control when suddenly faced with the "speed bump" to slow us down a bit. It may be a need of a family member, or good friend. Either way, we need to respond appropriately or it may cause emotional strain for us or others around us.

Keeping that in mind, why not slow down anyway? If you have been going day to day, or even at full tilt, make a purposeful choice to stop, converse and be present with: those we love, our spouse, family, children or others we respect. It is important for our growth and well being.

Try it! Stop for at least 5 minutes with no distraction of email or phone and look at the person you are speaking with. Eye to eye contact. Really engage with them. You may not have done this in a while, especially if the new school year or work schedule has been rigorous. Take that moment to care for the other. Ask questions and listen. Be empathetic. Repeat back what they are saying to you so that you really understand what they are experiencing or going through. (Example: "So what I hear you saying is...")

The investment you make in others, will produce good fruit! And those speed bumps may become less obtrusive when they do come your way.