Right The Ship

Do you ever feel overwhelmed in your marriage or relationship? As if the challenges you are experiencing are too overwhelming to even tackle?

It has been almost 2 years since the Italian Cruise Ship ran aground in Italy with 4,000 passengers on board. A bad judgment call put the ship, passengers and lives in peril. To give you an idea of how huge the cleanup project was, check out this info from the PMI Website on Project Management: (source: http://www.pmi.org/learning/PM-Network/2014/righting-the-ship.aspx)

There is a phrase called "Right the Ship" used to describe a process of shifting the load inside a ship so that it sits upright again and sails more efficiently. I am certain that this project was one of the largest in history, but there is a reason why I share it! You can make corrections to overcome any challenge ahead of you.

You and your spouse are the captains of your relation "ship." Is your boat steering correctly? Or leaning a bit too far over, just barely making it to the next port of call. You may be taking on water and frantically trying to bail out of situations such as debt or medical events. Maybe it's even mental illness. Whatever your case may be, I want to offer a bit of encouragement. You can right the ship, but you may need some assistance! That is where Great Marriages and its network may help.

Notice the magnitude of the project above. Your situation may not be remedied overnight. It takes good planning and team work. Marriage is like that, isn't it? Together you can conquer. Don't give up.

Challenge

1. If you are doing well - then thank God and keep sailing!

2. If you are not as strong as you would like to be or maybe have ignored a challenge too long. If you want to "right the ship," give us a call. We would be honored to be a part of your team to keep you strong and sailing on to your next port of call.

3. You can sail for a lifetime. You can enjoy the journey, and you can find the enrichment and stabilization you need, but you both need to want help and you both need to acknowledge that you want to fight for your relationship. Make it the best it can be!

Call us today won't you?

Date "Right the Ship"

Now that we are ending one year and starting another, ask your partner if they will work with you to make your relationship stronger and better in 2015. Plan a night where you will take a time out, without the kids, to talk about the following:

1. What "loads" do you each carry? (Work, childcare, medical, financial, parenting, etc.)

2. How have these loads shifted over time? Are you feeling out of balance? Overwhelmed? Or just right?

3. Do you have the same goals on the previously listed topics? (Example: Do you both value being debt free? Or do you share the same parenting decisions?) Write them down but don't problems solve yet - just identify them.

4. Now step back, look at your list: Do you both feel a need to adjust some of the topics? Do you see that you are not always on the same page?

Now let's talk about some ways to "Right the Ship." If you feel some "tweaking" is in order, I want you to call our offices at 920.783.6142 and ask about our mentor program or classes that relate to your specific area of need! You can also email us at:

info@great-marriages.org

You can do it! There is hope! The courage to address any issues and the time you invest in each other will pay off!

From the PMI Website:

For more than a year, the Costa Concordia cruise ship sat half-submerged off the coast of Italy—a striking reminder of the disaster that befell it on 13 January 2012.

That night, 32 people died when the ship capsized near the tourist island of Giglio, which lies off the coast of Tuscany, Italy. The captain who fled the scene faces manslaughter charges. Twice the size of the Titanic—the British passenger line that sank in 1912—the Costa Concordia is the largest capsized passenger ship in history. The night it ran aground, it held more than 4,000 guests and crew members.

The project team tasked with recovering the partially sunken ship would undertake the world’s largest naval salvage project. But it wouldn’t be enough just to remove the ship—the team would have to do so with minimal impact on the Mediterranean waters and sea life.